It's a myth that everything should be balanced at all times. The idea that you can allocate a certain amount of time and energy to each area of your life equally is flawed.

You won’t know the true beauty of your soul until you’ve faced the darkness that tries to block your path home.

Since many of you are new here, I thought it would be a great time to take you through my journey to resilience.

I promptly found myself stuck on a closed highway, ten minutes from home, for an hour. This is a little more of a personal introduction to bring you this lesson: Don’t waste your energy trying to fight the unchangeable.

Energy and emotion management is what this training is really all about. It’s what I teach in this blog and the solid foundation on which The Resilience Method© stands. Energy and how you use it is everything.

The world is an increasingly busy place. It’s hard to even hear your own voice sometimes over the din of people and information vying for your attention.

Keeping your own space and safeguarding your energy is paramount, more so than ever before. Do you have a process for controlling the information that enters your awareness?

There are countless people whose lives have been saved by medical practitioners who have dedicated their lives to selflessly saving others. There are so many people this system has worked miracles for.

However, for those who have fallen through the cracks, there is one common thread, a dark side to a system that is ruthlessly cold and devoid of compassion. And it is FAR to easy to hand over all your power to it, until it’s too late to turn back.

It’s simple. Accept it. Roll with the punches. Water off a ducks back. Suck it up. Change your perspective. Be thankful for what you have. Think positive. Shrug it off. It’s not that bad.

Except life isn’t a positivity quote and resilience isn’t superficial.

There are three habits you can use to take your power back as you navigate this hectic world.

These habit and mindset shifts take courage, honesty, and raw open examination of how you live your life. But if you keep them in your practice, they will change everything for you.

Challenging yourself throughout life is inevitable. Often, that challenge hurts.

I took a quantum leap a few months ago, craving change and expansion, and learned to fly helicopters. It was the most epic experience of my life.

Here’s the caveat… it didn’t go as planned. Not even close.

It’s the hard thing that gets procrastinated on, day after day.

The heavy feeling that pushes you further into the couch.

The doubt in your mind that makes you not want to leave bed in the morning.

Among the most excruciating feelings to sit with is the gutting loss of someone you love most. Death takes all of us. Inevitably, life and love cost us something… the obligation of saying goodbye.

In order to learn how to weather what’s difficult, resilience can be practiced through discipline. This becomes a skill, which becomes habit and eventually grows into an inseparable part of who you are. You build yourself every day, choosing who you get to become through your relationship with discipline.

We are built as creative beings.

It’s in our blood and our purpose.

Creative power is great in the name of progress; without this drive and process we wouldn’t have the world we live in. Look at what humanity has built.

If we always received what we expected, it would defeat the purpose of being human. We are designed to ride the waves of success and defeat with equal grace. To desire something and reach for it is to fully express ourselves, regardless of the outcome. This is the proverbial journey.

Extending compassion to others while putting yourself last might come just as naturally to you as telling yourself you aren’t good enough or worth the love. If you’re among the givers of this world, you’re awesome and we need you. But we also need you to realize how powerful and worthy you are.

Authority is something you naturally have over your life. You are built for self-governance, although the world will go to great lengths to convince you otherwise. You’re made of love and it runs on fear. Learn to fear less and love more and you step into your own sovereignty.

Remember that you have to die, so live a beautiful life.

Create a beautiful life, in both the easiest moments and the hardest. Be here, with all of it, mentally and emotionally. Beauty lies in between the moments you think you can’t endure and the facts you believe you can’t accept.

Resilience. is a blog on all things resilient and stoic. Stay tuned & stay strong.