Hiring with Purpose: The Power of Energy Exchange

The world of marketing will sell you a million solutions you ‘need’ to live a happy life.

Some solutions you do need or can massively benefit from. Others make great experiments. There’s a vast amount of quick fixes that get sold to us for problems we don’t even have.

Regardless of who you’re choosing to hire and why, consider the impact to your personal power. Hire for your personal life like you would if you were managing a company. Be the CEO in your experience. Lead yourself like you would a team. Own that position.

When you work with someone, whether that person is a bodywork practitioner, a doctor, accountant, lawyer, the guy fixing your plumbing, or a full time employee, you are hiring them to take control over an area of your life. This isn’t something to be taken lightly.

We all impact one another. Relationally, energetically, psychologically. Interaction with other people is one of life’s inevitabilities that we can’t escape. For that reason, and considering the great influence we all have on each others’ lives, relationships are one of the most — if not the most — difficult and complicated aspects of being human.

Think about this before hiring someone. Not only are you bringing another person into your experience to manage an aspect of your life you’re looking to outsource (yes, even if that’s a monthly massage), you’re also taking responsibility for the impact you’re having on their experience. Bring others into your life with conscious intention and awareness.

Do you trust them?

We all have energy. You can read the energy of others and other people can read yours. Most people have forgotten this power, but it’s something we’re born with and it never disappears. Ask yourself how you really feel about someone before you allow them to impact your experience.

Does this make sense for you?

Is this going to help you feel better or make you feel worse? Some decisions on the surface look like good ones, however taking a deeper dive may reveal that a decision is based on avoiding taking responsibility for a specific area that’s hard to deal with in your own life. Understand the difference needing help and wanting to take the easy way out. Don’t give your power away to someone who will happily do the job for you, but in doing so deprive you of the growth you would get from facing what’s uncomfortable.

Listen to your gut. Does this decision feel right?

As the leader, it’s your job to be honest with yourself first and be very aware of why you’re looking to work with someone in the first place. You can’t lead with a blindfold on. Understand your intentions and be able to openly communicate both what’s working and what isn’t through the entire process of working together.

Since this isn’t a one-sided relationship as such a thing doesn’t exist, acknowledge that you are also providing them with a service. You’re giving another person experience. The chance to practice their trade and earn money (energy) while doing so. This is a powerful exchange so don’t ignore the responsibility you carry here.

How can you better their experience?

Every human being loves feeling appreciated. It doesn’t take much to lift someone’s day and make the time you spend together, or the time they’re giving under your care, much more pleasant. Show that in whatever way feels genuine to you, whether that’s a compliment or a cup of coffee. People sense fakery in energy too, so in all your interactions, just be yourself. There’s no point in pretending to be someone else. Give from the heart and the people around you will feel that and reciprocate as long as they’re feeling secure enough in themselves to do so.

What can you do to ensure they feel valued and uplifted?

Lead from a place of being intimately married to your values. A value-driven life is a powerful weapon in this world. Know what you stand for and stand by that in leading others. As you want to trust the people you work with, they also want to be able to trust you. Demonstrate that trust is a mutual aspect of your relationship. You can’t push a string and your leadership in all areas of your life, including your relationships with others, should reflect that. True leadership in your own life will empower others, not take their power away for your own gain.

It’s a delicate balance, this life with others. It’s a dance of give and take. Understand your role in this dance. Hiring someone to take care of something in your experience should add to that experience, not take your power. If you’re honest with yourself about your intentions, you will be able to distinguish the difference. Alternatively, you should never hire someone to take their power away. Everyone should leave your charge feeling better than when they started.

Lead consciously, make decisions with care and awareness. Discern what’s right from what’s wrong for you at this point in time. If you take every relationship seriously, people will respect and appreciate you all the more for making them feel like the energy they give you throughout the experience is valued.

Our work is our service.

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